Drama. That is the only word that can describe what I am about to write. And I do not know why, but it seems to follow me wherever I go, so I am starting to think I do something to attract it. Two of my best friends, E2 and K, fell out and I am in the middle, unsure of what to do.
I remember being about 12 or 13 and running between two friends, E1 and L1, who hated each other because they fancied the same boy (he did not even care about either of them). There was a lot of secret talks and meetings behind their backs, like any sort to school girl drama. It was over 10 years ago: I occasionally talk to them and I am sure it was all forgotten. But that was the end of our childhood friendship. It marked me deeply because I learned to manage having friends that hated each other.
However, a couple of years ago two other very good friends, M and L2, sort of fell out. I say sort of because they never actually confronted each other. It was just a lot of gossip doing the rounds and resulting on M being left in the rain, when L2 was driving an empty car. This time I was forced to choose one side because my mother decided to support M. Frankly being on my mother's good books takes precedence over anything (yes, I am a mommy's girl). I also was a little annoyed with L2 because she was very bossy (just like me, sometimes).
As time passed and I spent more time with M, I started to see her other side, the one that was a gossiper and unreliable (I cannot say 'just like me') and I became a little annoyed with her too. If only they stopped being so childish and talked about whatever it was that made them angry (I think they did not even know), we would not need to be in such an awkward situation every time we were in the same room. M moved away a few months ago and I am not as good friends as I was before with either of them (but that is another story). This time I learned the hard way that I should not get involved as it only made things worse.
So now I am back at the beginning. E2 and K's break up is by far the worse and I will not try to explain it (it would make this post much longer). Suffice to say that when any relationship goes wrong both parties have to account for their mistakes. All I know is that I am pretty sure it will take a long time to heal. Like before, I wish they would talk about it. I am not sure of what to say to either of them. I showed my sympathy face to both and tried to judge neither. Things will be awkward but I do not want to lose either of them. Like E1, L1, M and L2, they are amazing people. I just wish they could me a little bit more amazing and do the unexpected: deal with it.